Having worked in California divorce and other family law cases for over 20 years I have worked on several cases where men were the victims of domestic violence.
I remember working on one case where the client proved with strong evidence that it was his wife that was inflicting domestic violence on him and still the Court Commissioner refused to order his wife to pay his attorney fees that he was forced to incur in defending against false domestic violence allegations.
WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CONTENT MAY BE DISTURBING TO SOME
Steve Ybarra is a Mexican-American man in his thirties who is going through a Domestic Violence situation with his ex, Michelle Ybarra. According to documentation through video, pictures, and witness testimony, Steve Ybarra has been a victim of his abuser for the past three years of their marriage. He is currently in the middle of a divorce and is in the middle of a custody battle of their young son, Leo.
Due to the video being so long, I’m writing out Ybarra’s story. You can watch the full video at the Bottom but it is long and the Microphone STINKS!
Ybarra got married to Michelle, who already had a child from a previous relationship. They were married for a little over three years, during at which time, his friend was telling him he was being abused. It took some time for…
The following is an anonymous contribution from a former alienated child that approached us, wishing to share her experience of growing up with parental alienation. We have changed the individuals’ names in the following post. I am a former alienated child and I would like to share my story for two reasons. First of all […]
The growing consensus that Joint Physical Custody is in the best interests of children is the topic of this blog post.
A recent article in the July/August 2018 issue of Nebraska Lawyer Magazine written by Linda L. Nielsen, Ph.D discusses the consensus that Joint Physical Custody is in the best interests of children.
Linda Nielsen is a Professor of Adolescent and Educational Psychology at Wake Forest University in Winston Salem, NC. She is an internationally recognized expert on shared physical custody research and father-daughter relationships. In addition to her seminars for family court and mental health professionals, she is frequently interviewed on the topic of shared parenting by journalists, including Time magazine and the Wall Street Journal.
The article is several pages long but the conclusion of the article is that “These 60 studies reflect the consensus of an international group of 110 scholars and mental health practitioners and a group of 12 renowned researchers: JPC is in children’s best interest, absent situations such as substance abuse or violence, which pose a danger to children even when their parents are still together.”
The article states in relevant part that,
“JPC is generally linked to better outcomes than SPC for children, independent of parental conflict, family income, or the quality of children’s relationships with their parents. Parents do not need to have a low conflict, communicative coparenting relationship or mutually agree to JPC at the outset in order for children to benefit from JPC. Nor is there reliable evidence that children under the age of four are harmed by or do not benefit from JPC or frequent overnighting. These 60 studies reflect the consensus of an international group of 110 scholars and mental health practitioners and a group of 12 renowned researchers: JPC is in children’s best interest, absent situations such as substance abuse or violence, which pose a danger to children even when their parents are still together.” Nielsen, L. (2018) The Nebraska Lawyer July/August 2018 issue 39, 44 (citing Braver, S. & Lamb, M. (2018). Shared parenting after parental separation: The views of 12 experts. Journal of Divorce & Remarriage, 59, 372-387. [Special issue on shared parenting]; Warshak, R. (2014). Social science and parenting plans for young children Psychology, Public Policy and Law, 20, 46-67.
The entire article can be viewed or downloaded in PDF at this link:
The author of this blog post, Stan Burman, is an entrepreneur and retired litigation paralegal that worked in California and Federal litigation from January 1995 through September 2017 and has created over 300 sample legal documents for sale. He believes in Father’s Rights as he has seen first-hand the incredible bias against fathers in the family law courts in California. He is currently working on creating digital products that will assist fathers both in California and throughout the United States to represent themselves without an attorney in Court regarding custody and support issues.
Please note that the author of this blog post, Stan Burman is NOT an attorney and as such is unable to provide any specific legal advice. The author is NOT engaged in providing any legal, financial, or other professional services, and any information contained in this blog post is NOT intended to constitute legal advice.
The materials and information contained in this blog post have been prepared by Stan Burman for informational purposes only and are not legal advice. Transmission of the information contained in this blog post is not intended to create, and receipt does not constitute, any business relationship between the author and any readers. Readers should not act upon this information without seeking professional counsel.
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Great article. The belittling of young children is rampant in society.
Many years ago it was usually women that were belittled.
However the belittling of men in particular has increased tremendously in the last 20-30 years in particular as TV shows and movies almost invariably portray all men and fathers as clueless males. This explains why women are awarded custody about 80% of the time.
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I know from personal experience working on divorce and other family law cases in California for over 20 years that false allegations are very common and are often used to deny custody of the minor children to the other parent (which is usually but not always the father).
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The media does not discuss the issue of parental alienation in any depth because it does not fit into their narrative. Brad Pitt won in Court because he has the money to hire excellent attorneys, and the judge hearing his case is not biased against fathers. Most fathers involved in custody battles are not so fortunate.
My divorce came after my wife made it clear to me that my function was that of a sperm donor. We wanted a second child, and after having sex once (scheduled by an Excel spreadsheet for her fertility) and not falling pregnant straight away, she insisted I have my sperm checked out and wouldn’t sleep […]
This is a horror story of extreme parental alienation that no parent should have to go through. The fact that the courts are very biased against fathers cannot be denied by anyone that has worked in the legal system. The really sad fact is that the courts in all of the western countries are biased against fathers.